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Top 10 Sex Toy Myths

You no longer need to walk into an Adult Store to buy sex toys, sex toy purchases can now be anonymous thanks to the internet. Via the internet you can receive detailed product information, pictures, and articles about how to use these toys are just a click away. Reputable companies such as offer easy return policies and privacy protections and secure purchasing, so there is nothing to worry about.

However despite the ease of internet purchases, there are still many myths circulating about these notorious devices. Below are the top 10.

Myth #1: Using sex toys overtime causes desensitisation, so that orgasm won't be possible without one:

Fact: There is no evidence to support the idea that sex toys can permanently harm or desensitize your genitalia if used properly. Actually, it's the opposite. Sex toys enhance sensitivity by increasing blood flow to the genitals quickly and effectively, and by directly stimulating the clitoris. As we age, we get less blood flow to the clitoris and vagina, and the vaginal walls get thinner. Most of us need more arousal time and more time to reach orgasm after we're aroused.  Sensitive body parts will respond to erotic stimulation and don't differentiate the source.  Sex toys bring women to orgasm faster than other types of erotic stimulation, but they don't change a woman's ability to respond to anything and everything else.  Actually, Sex toys allow women to explore their sexuality and in doing so help women respond to other types of stimulation — which is why so many sex therapists recommend good sex toys.

Myth #2: Sex Toys can replace partners:

Fact: The fear is that sex toy orgasms are so fantastic that you'll never want to have sex any other way. But a sex toy can never replace a person.  Comfort, conversation, cuddling, holding hands, kissing, all this intimacy and physical touch does not come from a sex toy.  Sex toys are fast and fun and positively add variety and excitement to sex play, however most people enjoy the touch and companionship of another human being, with or without toys. 

Myth #3:  Sex toys are unnatural and orgasm should be a natural occurrence:

Fact: This myth arises from the belief that sex should only occur with the equipment you were born with. Using sex toys is no more unnatural than enhancing the sexual experience with sexy lingerie, candles, and massage oil. All these things contribute to the sexual experience, yet most people don't have a problem with them.  Partners feel threatened that they are not fulfilling their sexual expectations if a sex toy is introduced, however it is not a choice between him and it, sex toys can be used together.

For those women who have difficulty with orgasm they merely require stimulation beyond what fingers and mouths can provide, this is normal.  Just think of sex toys as another tool in your sexual tool belt. The bottom line is sex toys simply make it easier for a woman to become aroused and reach orgasm. Would you badmouth a dentist for using a drill? Of course not. The tools just get the job done quicker and more efficiently.

Couples should discuss what turns them on. There is nothing wrong with the sexual encounter if women prefer (or require) a vibrator to attain sexual satisfaction.

Myth #4: Sex toys are dangerous and made of unsafe body materials:

Fact: The cheaper ones are cheap for a reason. They generally have no quality standards in materials or construction — they're called “novelty items,” and some of these toys may contain phthalates (plastic additives) which have been found to be harmful to the body. However at Orgasmic Solutions all our toys are phthalate free. These quality sex toys are body safe products of medical-grade materials such as ABS plastic, silicone or medical grade silicone, careful construction, and the best design and function for our bodies. You're paying for research & development and high-quality material that won't degrade, leach chemicals, break, overheat, or burn.

Properly cleaning and storing your toys can help preserve them and prevent bacteria build-up. Always store your toy in a bag, be sure to thoroughly rinse your toy of any soap residue or use an antibacterial toy cleaner such as Freshwash, to ensure your toy is bacteria free before and after use.

Myth #5. Sex toys are only for those who have problems with sex:

Fact: Sex toys have been referred to in the past as "marital aids" and "sexual aids", this creates the feeling that we need help and the 'aid' of the sex toy will fix the problem. There is no problem with a woman who finds that a vibrator helps her orgasm more easily, nor a man who discovers that a perineum massage is wonderful and allows him to orgasm easier. Sexual responses change and fluctuate overtime, the individual needs to adapt to their changing needs; there are no problems with this. Sex toys are just that 'toys' for grownups, there is nothing sinister or wrong with using toys to have fun,  it does not indicate a problem, sex toys are just a natural addition to enhances play.

Myth  6.  I'll become Addicted to my sex toy:

Fact: There is no physiological basis for vibrator addiction. Vibrators have not been proven to be harmful and neither has masturbation, and there has never been any evidence to prove that you go through physical withdrawal symptoms from stopping vibrator use. The term 'addiction' is defined as the condition of being abnormally dependent on some habit. The worry is the fear that if I indulge in this new sexual experience I will never want to stop. This same theory could be used for any product that gives pleasure, example if I indulge in icecream, I will never be able to stop. This doesn't hold true, I may love the sensation of eating icecream, the feel of the yummy icecream screaming joy to my tastebuds, but I wouldn't become dependent on eating icecream.

Sometimes the term of addiction refers to the fact that women can come easily, therefore leading to a habit, detraction from experiencing other types of sexual stimulation. There is a full range of sexual sensations that leads to the enjoyment of sex, you may use your hand, a penis or tongue, or sex toy. There's no law that one or another has to be used, the pleasure is on stimulating all the senses, and different methods simply add to the enjoyment. 

Myth #7.  Sex toys are for people without partners:

Sex toys do fill in nicely when you are single, or when you do have a partner and he or she just isn't in the mood.  However sex toys are a great addition to any sexual repertoire.  Sex toys add options to partner play, and can create intimacy and new sensations to your sex play. Small clitoral vibrators can enhance oral play for both partners or can add that extra stimulation to push you over the edge when used during intercourse. There are various sex toys that can be used with partners or solo, like multivibe.  All of these are healthy options for solo or partnered toy play.  Isn't it nice to have options?

Myth #8. The Sex Toy I use determines the type of person I really am:

The type of sex toy a person buys does not determine their sexual orientation or your sexual identity. For example: “If I buy an anal toy people will think I am gay”, if I buy a double ended dildo then I must be a lesbian' or 'if I buy hand cuffs I must be into S&M”.  These are many women and heterosexual men who like anal intercourse, and gay men who do not, there are plenty of heterosexual women who like the feeling of a double ended dildo used in couples play.  Sexual pleasure comes in all shapes and forms, and each toy cannot lead to the compartmentalization of the individual. These are toys used to enhance sexual pleasure that is all, they are not a reflection of the person.

Myth #9: Sex Toys are made by dishonest men who are trying to capitalise on sexual ignorance:

Sex toys were previously sold in dodgy adult stores where the lighting was poor, and you had to slink in for fear of someone seeing you enter. The products were poorly made and due to the nature of people's ignorance and shame surrounding sex, no one would be game enough to complain.  However this is not how the sex toy industry is today. Sex is no longer a dirty word; people are more open about their sex toy purchases. Thanks to the internet people's anonymity is ensured, therefore they can afford to be choosier and complain if a product is not up to scratch. Therefore the manufacturers have had to come to the party and start producing sex toys that are bodysafe, made of high quality medical grade products and they come with a huge array of features, with multiple selections on offer. At Orgasmic Solutions  we are service orientated, we have many years' experience and will happily answer all questions and recommend products.

Myth #10: Only perverts and 'kinky' people buy sex toys:

A pervert is a person who turns away from what is right, proper, or good; corrupt, whilst someone who is kinky is unusual, abnormal, or has deviant sexual practices.  There is nothing corrupt about enjoying your sexuality.  There is no longer the stigma attached to buying sex toys. It may be considered sexual exploration, but this doesn't make the person kinky. The increase in the amount of women who buy sex toys reflects the changing attitude that sex toys are now mainstream.  Since 1992 sales of sex toys for women have jumped from 10% to 40% of the sex shop customers in Australia, this is a massive jump. The old fashion stereotypes attached to sex toys are no longer valid.